Rhianon
Neurofibromatosis Type 2
Destination: Central Coast of California
Travel Year: 2023
My Story
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“My name is Rhianon, I’m 45 and living in Seattle. I come from a small family in California that had NF2. I was diagnosed when I was around 4 or 5 (my right eye started turning), then everyone else was diagnosed soon after. “Everyone” being my mother, uncle, aunt, and grandmother (who died before I was born). My great-grandmother had married a man with NF2. As for my dad? I never knew him, mom left him when I was 2. I heard he was abusive and denied I was his.
I received my first hearing aid in first grade (but I was too much of a rebel to wear it). Except for my right eye being closed (ever since I could remember), I was in pretty good shape. But looking so different, in a small town, still wasn’t easy. People have stared at me my whole life, especially kids. I hated it. I thought I was pretty cool, but I never really felt like I “fit in”. That’s still relevant today, a misfit, but a proud one! Took me several decades to realize I’m awesome, it doesn’t matter if everyone can’t see that.
I spent the last 20 years living in Seattle… AND LOVING IT! So much to do in a city, and so much diversity. Worked as a web designer, got into photography, learned ASL, met friends from around the world… but my favorite part? My team of doctors aren’t far away, and they know NF2 very well. My mom used to have to drive long distances for that kind of attention.
“I had to quit working 10 years ago, and now live on disability (with HUD housing). Headaches and brain fatigue made focusing on a project for long hours impossible. My vision is getting worse, my hearing is gone (but I have a cochlear implant), my balance is poor, my spine has tumors, and so does my brain….but I ain’t done living yet! I’m a big believer in appreciating everything you can still do, no use of crying over what you lost. Enjoy what’s left while you can.”
My Health
Daily Challenges
- Fully deaf; cochlear implant on left side (still don’t understand speech)
- Right eye closed + no depth perception or control of eye
- Severe dry eyes
- Severe brain fatigue
Ongoing Health Issues
- Slight facial nerve damage on right side
- Deteriorating vision in left eye
Major Procedures
- 3 brain surgeries + shunt and cochlear implant placed
- Optic nerve tumor removed
- Spinal tumors + loss of balance
- Proton therapy for brain tumor + skin cancer removal twice (caused by proton therapy)
Total Surgeries: 8
Making Travel Plans
“I don’t know if my ‘top dream’ fits your criteria, but my gut keeps telling me to try…”
Rhianon’s application letter immediately captured our hearts. A few months earlier, she had shockingly discovered who her biological dad was and that she had two half-sisters and three nieces. And it turns out they live in the area she grew up in – the Central Coast of California. Rhianon moved to Seattle 20 years ago and had always longed to make a trip home again, but it was too expensive. With a deep desire to meet her family (after being alone since the age of 17) and an eagerness to revisit her old stomping grounds, she took a chance and applied for a journey.
Rhianon is deaf because of NF2, but thanks to Facetime’s new caption feature, she had already spoken to her family multiple times. After texting with her sister and niece daily, she said it’s clear they’re not “afraid of me being deaf or having NF2”. Obviously, there was an emotional risk for Rhianon going on this trip, but we all believed the payoff would be more than worth it!
When it came to planning her itinerary, we took a slightly hands-off approach compared to our typical process. Rhianon and her family worked together to create a list of fun activities and set their schedule for the week. We wanted to do everything in our power to create a memorable and safe experience, but to respect the unique nature of the situation and let them sort out the details themselves.
Seeing her family and hometown were Rhianon’s top priorities for the trip, but she also wanted to spend a little time at the end relaxing on the beach with her partner. She also shared that she’s never stayed in a fancy hotel or ordered room service. We knew that a little dose of luxury was the perfect way to end her vacation, and what better place than Santa Barbara!
“Half of my excitement for this trip is to finally get to meet the family I never knew I had. The other half is just seeing “home” again, and sharing it with my long-time partner. Very excited to see my old “stomping grounds”, and what has changed. I know I have. I’m no longer the awkward girl that was ashamed of who they were. I’ve grown a lot since then, and want to prove it to myself. My positive attitude will outshine my physical flaws.”
Travel Docs
Being Positioned created a 6-day itinerary for Rhianon to eat, explore, and sightsee in sunny California.
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Destination Central Coast of California
First off, I have so much gratitude for Being Positioned, and how much they helped me to have such an amazing adventure. Finding out you have family is pretty amazing. But being able to fly to CA to meet them and see “home” again (after 20 years) was over the top!
Not only did we meet, but they welcomed me with open arms. Physical challenges didn’t matter, they accommodated and helped however they could. Was a good reminder that you really aren’t “alone” in the world, nor need to be isolated.
“It was a very full schedule, seeing Hearst Castle, beaches, small towns, enjoying my favorite restaurant again, lounging in a hot tub… but totally worth it. Having family along for most of it made it even better. The BBQ and playing Mini Golf with them were probably my favorite moments.”
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Completed Activities
Meeting Biological Family for the First Time • Hearst Castle • Mini Golf • Eating Lots of Mexican Food + BBQ • San Luis Obispo + Pismo Beach • Santa Barbara • Massages • Beach Day
What was my favorite moment?? The fact that the adventure isn’t over yet! I’m still in touch with them, and we are already making plans to hang out again. :)”
Getting to do all this stuff, without having to worry about money or doctor visits was definitely a highlight. Being free to enjoy the moment with no worries, is pretty priceless.
Normally I’m shy in groups, but that wasn’t the case here. There was no time for that! So I brought some mics to help my phone captions and did my best to stay in the conversations in the car or while eating. That helped my confidence a lot! I looked at getting to know them as a challenge, a good one. 🙂
Dad’s friend was with us a few times and knew ASL. That helped bridge the gap as well while she interpreted and helped me tease him a little lol.
Each person diagnosed with NF2 experiences different symptoms throughout their lifetime. Some cases are considered relatively minor, while others are more severe. Despite the variation among cases – every story is hard and full of loss.
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